Things not to say and alternatives to tell/ask people who are having a panic or anxiety attack:
- Just calm down.
Alternative: Can I help you calm down? Or Is there anything I can do for you?
- Why can’t you just relax?
Alternative: I’m here for you, what can I do to help you relax?
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Anonymous asked: Could you explain what an anxiety attack is like and what someone can do to help the person who is having it?
"Anxiety attacks, also known as panic attacks, are episodes of intense panic or fear.” -helpguide.org
They last about ten minutes on average, although they can last up to half an hour. You can feel withdrawn or detached for your environment, like you’re trapped, like you’ve lost control, and/or believe that you’re dying. Some physical symptoms are shaking/trembling, rapid heart rate, trouble breathing, hot flashes or chills and nausea. It can cause urination or vomiting. It’s easy to mistake an anxiety attack for a heart attack. It’s a very intense and difficult experience.
What to do if someone is having an anxiety attack:
- DO NOT get angry at them. Realize that they are not choosing to have an anxiety attack. Don’t blame them for it or act mad or disappointed at them.
- This is a really good article on what not to do.
- Ask them before doing anything. Don’t touch or move them without permission. Asking what they need is probably the most important thing you can do.
- If they are in a loud, crowded, or public place, it may help to move somewhere quieter and less populated.
- On the same note, don’t make them feel trapped. Make sure you and anyone else around you aren’t blocking any exits or surrounding them.
- Often times, just being there with them can help.
- Speak in a calm, soothing tone. If you panic, they’ll be worse.
- Doing breathing exercises with them, or encourage them to do repetitive tasks (like repeating a mantra or counting backwards from 10) can slow their breathing and heart rate.
- Having something like a pillow (nothing sharp or dangerous) to hold against their chest can make some people feel safer.
Note: I don’t have any personal experience with anxiety attacks. If anyone reading this does, I encourage you to reblog and add your comments.