1. There will be several days that you daydream about stepping in front of a city bus. Don’t. It will not be beautiful. It will not be brave. It will be selfish. It will be broken. Your mother will cry.
2. Don’t write for him. Write for you. Write for others like you. Write so the girl that thinks about stepping in front of public transportation doesn’t. Don’t be selfish.
3. When you will yourself to sleep and it doesn’t come- get up. It doesn’t matter that it’s 3 am. There will be other 3 am’s. Take a shower. Take two. Wash him out of your hair. Write a poem. Read the same book you’ve read 202 times again. The 203rd time might tell you something different. Don’t stay in bed- you will think about the bus again.
4. Don’t kiss him because he’s broken. Don’t kiss him because his laughter never reaches his eyes. Don’t try and fix him. Fix yourself first. Be selfish. He can’t save you.
5. Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don’t share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself.
6. Dress up and wear red lipstick and get drunk with your friends. They’re the ones that will pick you up. Don’t kiss him. Or him. Don’t fall asleep on strange couches with strange boys. When his hand slides up your dress walk away. Hit him. Don’t kiss him. He can’t save you.
7. Get another tattoo. Get five more. Get another hole in your ear. Don’t listen to your dad. You will still be able to get a job. Did you really want to be employed by someone like your father? Haven’t you had enough of judgmental old white men anyway? Get fuck you tattooed in tiny letters on your hip.
8. When you feel the yearning for a new city- start over. Take 200 bucks and a three suitcases. Work anywhere that will have you. Meet strange people and forget your name. Call yourself Ruby. No one will know the difference. Remember to call your mother. Don’t be selfish. Come home when you find yourself in the strangers and the small one bedroom apartment.
9. Don’t whisper evil things into your own ear. Other people are going to shout them at you. Be your own hero. Keep a sword on your key ring.
10. Don’t step in front of a city bus. It will not be beautiful. Live. Stay up all night with a boy that promises you everything and means it. Live. See shitty local bands with a friend. Wear a different band’s t-shirt. No one will care. Live. Have a baby girl with tiny fingers and tiny toes someday. Pour love into her until it’s overflowing. Live. Wake up. Staying in bed all day is not poetic.
Do you hear that? It’s me. It’s your life. Wake up."
- This made me cry so much. (via psychognosis)
Amy Winehouse at 18 years old
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Things not to say and alternatives to tell/ask people who are having a panic or anxiety attack:
- Just calm down.
Alternative: Can I help you calm down? Or Is there anything I can do for you?
- Why can’t you just relax?
Alternative: I’m here for you, what can I do to help you relax?
dating me means dating my anxiety and my random spouts of depression it means dating my panic attacks at 11pm or 2 am or 5am or anytime of the day for that matter it means dating my mood swings where i get really upset over everything about me and all my insecurities and how i’m not good enough because i’m never good enough
Anonymous asked: Could you explain what an anxiety attack is like and what someone can do to help the person who is having it?
"Anxiety attacks, also known as panic attacks, are episodes of intense panic or fear.” -helpguide.org
They last about ten minutes on average, although they can last up to half an hour. You can feel withdrawn or detached for your environment, like you’re trapped, like you’ve lost control, and/or believe that you’re dying. Some physical symptoms are shaking/trembling, rapid heart rate, trouble breathing, hot flashes or chills and nausea. It can cause urination or vomiting. It’s easy to mistake an anxiety attack for a heart attack. It’s a very intense and difficult experience.
What to do if someone is having an anxiety attack:
- DO NOT get angry at them. Realize that they are not choosing to have an anxiety attack. Don’t blame them for it or act mad or disappointed at them.
- This is a really good article on what not to do.
- Ask them before doing anything. Don’t touch or move them without permission. Asking what they need is probably the most important thing you can do.
- If they are in a loud, crowded, or public place, it may help to move somewhere quieter and less populated.
- On the same note, don’t make them feel trapped. Make sure you and anyone else around you aren’t blocking any exits or surrounding them.
- Often times, just being there with them can help.
- Speak in a calm, soothing tone. If you panic, they’ll be worse.
- Doing breathing exercises with them, or encourage them to do repetitive tasks (like repeating a mantra or counting backwards from 10) can slow their breathing and heart rate.
- Having something like a pillow (nothing sharp or dangerous) to hold against their chest can make some people feel safer.
Note: I don’t have any personal experience with anxiety attacks. If anyone reading this does, I encourage you to reblog and add your comments.